Control is never necessary. It is within you to release. This is indeed your superpower.
"Enter into the Kingdom of Heaven through the Heart, in the middle, between Heaven and Earth, as your Soul sits, throned in the essence of what is truest, what is best, what is most beautiful: Love."
To love oneself fully, one must give to self, first. When you encountered the spiritual messages of self abdication and selflessness, these misinterpretations misled you into believing you must prepare, take, and give less to and for yourself than to and for others. This is not now and will never be the case.
We can look around and see those who have caught us falling, set us back aright, given us a flow of air to ride upon until we catch a larger current. Thank god for the flows shared by each and every soul to keep the drift cycling upward, to keep us flying higher. 
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